There are a lot of men out there who are unjustly judged by women to be total douchebags. But it’s hard to blame women for that. So many women in the world have fallen victims to the treacherous romantic games that a lot of these immature men play in dating and relationships. Sometimes, when someone gets used and abused way too much in a relationship, it can scar them for life.
And so, it’s totally natural that a woman like you would probably be hesitant to open yourself up to guys in the future. You are probably scared that you’re only going to end up getting hurt or disappointed. But at the end of the day, love is always going to be a risk. It’s a chance that you’re going to have to take.
And you shouldn’t make the mistake of thinking that there aren’t any more good guys out there. There are a lot of great men who are ripe for the picking. You just have to be patient enough to wait for him. And once he’s there, you need to fight like hell to keep him. You’re not just going to win his love without action. You need to be willing to exert the effort in keeping him in your life.
But that all starts with being able to identify when he’s there in the first place. If you notice that a guy is exhibiting a lot of the signs that are listed here, then you can trust that he’s definitely someone who you can build a future relationship with. He’s definitely the kind of guy who would be all-in with a long-term relationship.
He Doesn’t Avoid Problems
Let’s get real – Relationships aren’t always easy. Anytime two people choose to blend their lives together and become a couple things can get a little complicated. Lucky for you, he’s not afraid of the hard stuff. He’s willing to put in the effort that is needed to make it work. He’s not going to run away at the first sign of a struggle. Instead, he’s there and ready to face any hard times ahead, trying his best to figure out a solution so that he can work through it with you. You two are a team and he’s in this relationship for the long haul. Together you can conquer it all. No problem is too big and you can overcome it together. Things aren’t always going to be like fairytale like, but he’s still your idea of prince charming.
He’s Not Afraid To Say Sorry
While some guys will avoid apologizing and instead choose to blow it off and pretend like nothing happened, simply moving on from it. This guy is not like that. If he screwed up, he will go out of his way to make it up to you. He’s the type to show up with flowers and a sincere apology. If he knows he hurt you in any way it will completely destroy him, to the point that he will be pulling out all the stops to make sure you forgive him. But the most amazing part is that once he has made a mistake he learns from it and never does it again. Not a chance. He’s going to do whatever he can to avoid making that mistake again. All he really wants is to see you happy (after all he loves your smile) and he never wants to be the reason you’re in distress.
He Encourages You
If it’s important to you, you better believe it’s important to him and he wants you to succeed at everything you do. He’ll never hold you back but instead encourages you to give it a try no matter how nervous you might be. He’ll continue to be your biggest fan. He has absolute faith in you and there’s no doubt in his mind that you will succeed in anything you set your mind to. And if you need help, he’s more than willing to lend a helping hand. When you succeed, he succeeds. He doesn’t feel like he has to compete with you. Actually, he will probably even go so far as to send you little motivational quotes throughout the day to keep you going.
The last thing you have to worry about is him putting down your dreams or laughing about something you’re passionate about. He’s always on your side.
He Loves Everything About You
He appreciates all you have to offer from your personality to your looks, he loves every single part of you. And yes, that includes all of those things you wish you could change about yourself. Seriously he has no idea what you’re complaining about because he wouldn’t change a thing. He thinks you are perfect just the way you are. In fact, the only thing he hates is that you can’t see yourself in the way that he sees you. He likes to remind you often that he thinks you’re the most beautiful woman he’s ever laid eyes on and his compliments always feels sincere.
Even on your worst days, where you’re moody and mean to him. He’s able to look past it because he gets that sometimes people just have bad days. He’s not going to take it personally. He legitimately feels lucky to have you in his life.
He Has Your Back
When things aren’t going your way and you feel like everyone is against you, there is one thing you know for sure, he will always be in your corner rooting for you. You don’t need to worry about falling because he’s with you and he’s there to catch you no matter what. He’s your biggest support system, he’s not going to critique you and make you feel judged. He’s going to stand up for you when he needs to. He also tries to protect you in any way he can. There is no chance of him bad mouthing or allowing anyone to bad mouth you in front of him. He’ll have your back in a way you’ve never before experienced. He will be your sense of security when it feels like things are falling apart and he will keep you grounded when you’re ready to throw in the towel and give up.
He Gives Great Advice
You know that whenever you have an issue, that you can go him and know he will provide you with his best possible advice. He knows you’re an intelligent woman and would never want to give you unsolicited advice. The last thing he would ever want to do is to make you feel as though he thinks he knows better that you do. Because he knows you are fully capable of handling it yourself and he considers you to be his equal. He just wants to help you resolve any issues you may be facing, without judgment. He’s not going to tell you what you did wrong or should have done differently. His only concern is going to be what could make the situation better for you. He always wants the best for you.
Ok, this is going to come as a bit of a surprise to most of you. But there actually are guys out there who pay attention when you talk. Gasp! I know a man who listens? They must be like finding a majestic unicorn. Nope. Once a man knows that you’re the one – and trust us, they’ll know, they actually care about the things you have to say. They want to hear about how your day went, what your dream vacation is and even what candy is your favorite. You know, all those tiny details most guys fail to remember or even care about. But not this guy he’ll take a mental note and file it away so he’ll have it for later.
But he isn’t just interested in listening to you when things are going great. He’ll be your shoulder to cry on after a bad day when you’re needing to vent. He’ll probably even show up with some small present (like that favorite candy you told him you liked) in an attempt to cheer you up.
If you need him, he is going to be there for you. No questions asked. It doesn’t matter to him that it’s pouring down rain. It doesn’t matter to him that it’s 3am and he has to get up and go to work in the morning. You are a priority to him and if you call him and tell him that you need him there are no obstacles that will get in his way from getting to the woman that he loves. Even If the situation isn’t exactly serious, if you ask him to help you with something, even though it may not be the funniest task he’ll be willing to do it anyway.
He’s also consistent with his time. He’s not going to bother playing games with you. He’s not going to send you confusing signals that make you question whether or not he’s serious about you. There’s no need for them because he knows he’s serious about you and he wants you to feel secure in your relationship.
He’s Not Afraid To Let You Know He Misses You
When you are apart from each other he has no problem sending you a cute text letting you know that you’re on his mind and he misses you. When you reunite he embraces you warmly and gives you a kiss like he hasn’t seen you in forever. He is always genuinely excited to see you. He doesn’t blow you off and actually dreads the thought of having to cancel plans with you because that means he has to go even longer without seeing you. If he could he would love to spend all of the time in the world with you but that’s just not possible and he knows you need your space to do your own things. He doesn’t suffocate you with clinginess but he expresses his desire to see you when you are apart.
He’s Comfortable With You
So he’s probably not being overly comfortable with you to the point that it’s awkward or acting like he’s just hanging out with one of the guys when he’s with you, but he does show you a side of himself that no one else gets to see. You’re special to him and he loves that he can be himself with you. He’ll tease you and tickle you and you’ll feel like you’re the only ones in the world who matter in that moment. He knows he can tell you anything with no fear of judgment. You are his best friend. You connect on a level of intense intimacy. When you’re together you both have a sense of feeling free. You can have light hearted fun with each other and just being together, makes your stress melt away.
He Argues Fair
When you run into a disagreement, he isn’t going to act like a child and throw a tantrum. You don’t have to worry about him slamming doors or screaming. He’s also not going to bottle up all his feelings and then explode on you later. He respects you and will talk through your issues like an adult. And if he can’t calmly handle the situation in the moment he has no problem taking a break to remove himself from the situation to give you both time to relax and collect your thoughts. Then when you return he allows you the chance to speak your side without interrupting. This way, when it’s his turn he will calmly explain his side.
He Comes To You Before He Makes A Big Decision
He likes to get your opinion on things before he makes a big decision or makes a drastic change. He considers you a huge part of his life, his future plans always have you included. He would never do something that could potentially alter things between the two of you. He takes in your preferences and feelings on the subject before making any big moves. You can expect that he would never randomly and decide to buy a house or choose a vacation destination without you. Besides if he was doing something huge it’s safe to say that you would definitely be included.
He Knows How To Show Affection
Showing affection doesn’t come easily to all men and there are different ways he may show you that he cares. You may wind up with Mr. Romantic who will buy you enough flowers to fill your apartment and run you candle lit bubble baths for no reason at all. He will do it simply because you deserve it. On the other hand, you may get Mr. Fix it who shows affection by doing things for you. He’ll show he cares by fixing the faucet that has been leaking for 6 months or taking your trash to the curb so you don’t have to. It doesn’t really matter what his love style is, the point is that he goes out of his way for you just to let you know he cares. But the one thing all men have in common when it comes to letting you know how they feel, and it’s in the way they look at you. They say the eyes are the window to the soul and when he looks at you, you understand just how much truth that statement holds. You can’t describe how the way he looks at you makes you feel. It’s something you’ve never experienced with anyone else. It’s almost euphoric.
He Doesn’t Stop The Chase
He likes you. Like, he really likes you. Therefore, he doesn’t mind doing romantic gestures even if it’s not exactly his strong point and he will do things to surprise you out of the blue. He does these things for you because they are actually something he likes to do. He wants to make you feel special and it brings him happiness when he sees your face light up from the excitement. He does things just to make you smile. You are worth it to him and he would never want to make you feel like you are being taken for granted. He isn’t going to forget important dates like holidays and anniversaries and he will plan sweet activities for the both of you to do together. He’s not afraid to let you see his sensitive side. He is willing to do whatever it takes to not only win your heart but to keep it.
He’s Committed To You
Men aren’t exactly known for daydreaming about their future and when he lets you know that he sees himself with you, he’s totally invested in the relationship and is determined to make it work. When he discusses his future plans they always include you. In fact, he can’t even imagine his life without you in it. There’s no doubt in your mind that you’re a top priority for him and he ensures you feel completely secure with where you stand in his life. He has embraced the idea of spending the rest of his life with you and even if the thought of that kind of commitment may be terrifying to him- No worries it’s normal- he doesn’t let that hold him back from being with the girl of his dreams. He’s made up his mind that he wants you and he’s ready to step up to the plate and be fully committed to you.